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Feeling stuck, frustrated, invalidated, invisible, or unable to clearly communicate in your relationship has trickled down into, and has impacted other areas of your life, despite your efforts to avoid it.

In relationship conflict, a cycle emerges as one partner that senses something is "off" attempts to go in to fix, sometimes with urgency, and then the other shuts down, sensing conflict. The issues that we fight about (like cleaning, in-laws, lateness, politics, sex, kids, and more) become the focus of this cycle, leading us away from the matters of the heart.

Complicating things is our childhood experience where our caregivers' lack of emotional maturity left big gaps in our know-how to practice healthy relating.

No matter the relationship, intimate or other, and no matter the length of time you've been together, 2 months or 18 years, these conflictual patterns may present themselves. However, rather than eroding the trust in relationship, they can become the breeding ground for more intimacy and connection.

Mastering your cycle of disconnection and befriending your nervous system will pave the way toward true intimacy and self confidence.

Trauma Informed Lens

Learn about relationship patterns and nervous system concepts from a non-pathological and trauma informed lens. I will teach you and be with you in a way that feels safe.


This is not your average course! I want to engage With you each week and allow you the space to not only learn, but practice the concepts that I will be teaching on- to create lasting change!

Nervous System Centered

Because the brain grows continuously throughout our life, opportunities for healing are endless. Though you feel stuck, you'll see how much you make sense from a nervous system perspective. It's at that point you can begin to get unstuck.

This course is for you if...

  • You want to understand the pursue/withdraw dynamic in your relationship and gain the tools to slow and stop it.
  • You are on a merry-go-round of conflict and self deprecation and you need some clarity.
  • You've been wanting to dive deeper than what you've been learning in books and on social media about relationships and self regulation and do so with support.
  • You're ready to do something different for the sake of your wellbeing and sense of self worth.
  • You want to release the resentment from feeling like you've been doing all the work in your relationship
  • You want to spend less time worrying about your relationship and more time enjoying it.
  • You want the support and guidance of like-minded people to create new patterns in your life.
  • You want to go into your next relationship with awareness of red flags and a sense of security.

This course is NOT for you if...

  • You are looking for this course to be a replacement for therapy or you are in need of a higher level of care.
  • You are looking for a "quick fix".
  • You want to use what you learn to 'prove' your partner wrong or to change them.
  • You don't feel like you can commit to this process of opening, learning, and growing.
  • You aren't ready to take an honest, but compassionate look at the ways you show up in relationship.

About Melissa

Hi I'm Melissa...a licensed therapist and relationship coach and educator in Irmo, South Carolina. After seeing the many women in my social media community longing for the how-tos of healing insecure attachment, I decided to answer the call. I'm here to help you get clear on what steps to take to begin to get the most out of your relationships-- with others and with yourself!

I have worked as a therapist helping individuals and couples move from being stuck, overwhelmed, and alone to connected and hopeful once again. I'm prepared to share all that I know about secure relating in an intimate online group space to help you reach your goals. I, too have a history of attachment wounds and I'm here to show you what it looks like to be secure in love.

What you'll learn and practice:

Week One:

Setting up a brain state to create lasting change

Attachment theory and the attachment adaptations

Week Two:

Breaking down ingredients of the cycle of disconnection

Polyvagal Theory basics and mapping the states of your nervous system

Week Three:

Somatic exercises to befriend your inner experience and narrow in on your cues of safety and danger

Differentiating primary emotions and secondary emotions

Week Four:

Parts work and inner child awareness

Reparenting the inner child

Week Five:

Perception and reworking action tendencies

Self regulation skills


Week Six:

Integrating concepts and inner experience to create a coherent narrative

Skills and scripts for navigating conflict and vulnerability within relationship

What You'll Be Getting

  • Weekly 1 hour live lessons and access to recordings for self-paced learning
  • 30 minute live Q&A's after the lessons
  • A private one hour 1:1 coaching session for support as you learn the material and begin to apply it **with the option to add sessions to your package
  • A 55 page comprehensive workbook and hands-on somatic tools
  • Mid-week connect exercises sent to supplement the lessons from the week
  • Private FB group to support the learning and growing process
  • Intimate, private coaching space capped at 10 participants

Commonly Asked Questions

Q: What if I'm not currently in a relationship? Will this course apply to me?

A: Yes. This course is beneficial if you're currently in a relationship, hoping to find yourself in an intimate relationship, or if you've experienced a painful breakup and you want to avoid red flags in the future. 

Q: What if I can't attend some of the live lessons- is there an option for self-paced learning?

A: Yes. While I highly suggest attending the live sessions for the group component and live q&a, life happens! The sessions will be recorded and uploaded to the platform for viewing at your convenience. You can do the exercises and complete the workbook pages at your own pace.

Q: Melissa, this is a coaching course but, as a therapist are you making the course full of clinical jargon?

A: This course is for the layperson that wants to understand attachment science and neuroscience and it's also for those that have a strong knowledge base of these concepts. This course is meant to be experiential in that we will not only learn the material cognitively, we will be practicing the concepts together. This is what the brain needs to create lasting change! Plus, you will have the opportunity for 1:1 coaching to ask the questions you need to further your understanding.

Q: I'm ambivalent about buying the course. Can you help me with this?

A: It's understandable. It's expensive, both of your time and your money, to invest in this type of course. I've taken what I've learned as a clinician treating couples and attachment trauma for 18 years and have packaged what's relevant for healing attachment wounds and nervous system regulation into this 6 week course. I've added the 1:1 coaching component for each person to both ensure an understanding of the material and to give the unique opportunity to coach you through any obstacles. I'm offering this introductory price (prices will increase after this cohort!) and have also provided the payment options for those wanting to break down the payment.

A Welcome Message

Course Disclaimer

This course is not therapy, nor is it a replacement for therapy. It is for educational purposes only. I am a therapist but taking this cohort course is not a therapeutic relationship. I highly recommend that you participate in therapy, as it would be a perfect place to expand on what you learn here. Exploring your childhood and relationship patterns may be dysregulating and it's important that you have a support system in place.

Payment Options:

  • Pay in Full for $949
  • 3 Biweekly Payments of $340
  • 6 Weekly Payments of $175

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***I want you to feel confident that this is the right fit for you***

If you are ready to sign up, you will receive an invoice shorty after completing the form. If you need to ask questions before you commit, we can get on a call and discuss!

Please note that only the first 10 will get a spot in the course!